The Nine Types

Enneagram wounds! Listen if you want to learn little bit more about me and my life! My siblings guest starred on this podcast 🙂 enjoy!

The type three is a complicated, and yet simple one. These people are so driven and so dedicated to their work, as we know based on my previous posts. The three’s childhood wound is featured below.

~Type 3: To the heart – These children felt rewarded only for what they did and how well they did it. their feelings were discounted and ignored, only their performance and what was expected of them mattered. This harmed their ability to love themselves and others. Admiration replaced real love.~

I know. Depressing. These wounds from childhood aren’t an easy thing to write about, and certainly not easy to talk about, but this being said the way that we learn about the people around us is so deep that this test could be a stepping stone to a better relationship.

I have decided I am going to go through and talk about all of the types and their childhood wounds since it is such a big part of how you achieve your number. The enneagram two is, in my mind, one of the most, if not THE most special number. These people are hard to come by and are gems of humans. The enneagram two, as a refresher, is the most loving number. They put everyone before themselves and they always care so deeply, sometimes forgetting to care for themselves. The type two’s childhood wound is as follows.

~Type 2: These children felt loved only if they were helping or pleasing others, their personal needs felt selfish. As a result they closed off their own needs and feelings and tuned into those of others. Love became defined as giving to others – though the love often didn’t feel received or reciprocated.~

Ask the Twos near and dear to you about their experiences as a child to see how accurate The Enneagram really is.

This is an interesting topic relating to the enneagram. One that is near and dear to my heart, while also being somewhat hard to talk about. This part of the enneagram is how you “start” on your journey. The way this test works is that every person from the point of remembrance in their childhood gets their number based on those experiences as a kid. This might be confusing so let me break it down. For example, if you’re a One on the Enneagram your childhood wound is as follows:

~These children felt heavily criticized, punished, or not good enough. Household rules may have felt inconsistent. As such they became obsessed with being good/not making mistakes to avoid condemnation. The principle message was: “You must always be better than you are.”~

This being said the number that best exemplifies you and how you work is based a lot by the situation stated above.

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Are Nines big, fat, visceral, and slow? Actually, Nines can be large or small, slim or heavier. And many Nines are average in size. The Dalai Lama, for example, is most likely a Nine, and he is neither “big” nor “fat,” and neither is Sandra Bullock, also a likely Nine. Nines are often referred to as “anger that went to sleep,” which means that they can easily be out of touch with their anger, and they do this partly by being less in contact with their emotions.

While some Nines can be slow in terms of taking action, many Nines are highly active. In fact, social subtype Nines in particular can work themselves to exhaustion on behalf of groups or organizations without even noticing that they are depleted. The “slowness” for Nines may be confused with not paying sufficient attention to their own wants, intentions, and opinions, but would not at all relate to being slow in any other sense.

The enneagram two is a special number. Two’s are caring and selfless, a lot of times more than they should be. There are a lot of times they do things for other people even when they are emotionally drained.

“People of this personality type essentially feel that they are worthy insofar as they are helpful to others. Love is their highest ideal. Selflessness is their duty. Giving to others is their reason for being. Involved, socially aware, usually extroverted, Twos are the type of people who remember everyone’s birthday and who go the extra mile to help out a co-worker, spouse or friend in need.” –eclectic energies

I have many two’s in my life (one being my mom and one being my best friend) that are the best sweetest types of people. I am eternally grateful for my two’s.

This is one of my favorite reads. I love the enneagram and how it relates to people. I have used this tool in so many of my personal relationships to help with problems. I have been able to figure out where I’ve been wrong and how to help, all by this test.

“Ignorance is bliss―except in self-awareness. What you don’t know about yourself can hurt you and your relationships―and even keep you in the shallows with God. Do you want help figuring out who you are and why you’re stuck in the same ruts? The Enneagram is an ancient personality type system with an uncanny accuracy in describing how human beings are wired, both positively and negatively.”

In The Road Back to You Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile forge a unique approach―a practical, comprehensive way of accessing Enneagram wisdom and exploring its connections with Christian spirituality for a deeper knowledge of ourselves, compassion for others, and love for God. Not only will you learn more about yourself, but you will also start to see the world through other people’s eyes, understanding how and why people think, feel, and act the way they do. Beginning with changes you can start making today, the wisdom of the Enneagram can help take you further along into who you really are―leading you into places of spiritual discovery you would never have found on your own, and paving the way to the wiser, more compassionate person you want to become.

By challenging us to bravely explore who we really are, the Enneagram helps us recognize and overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior and to become our most authentic selves.

(Side note: this book also has a part two that I will be talking about as well)

The enneagram is a diagram (refer to my first post). There are numbers, then there are numbers next to those. You get it. Wings are the numbers NEXT to yours that you embody the most. For example, I am a 9. The numbers next to mine are 8 and 1. I am most like the 1. I haven’t spoken on it before (I will soon, its professor Scott’s number) but these people are perfectionists. Your wing is a lot of times what sets you apart from your fellow peers that have the same number as you. There can be a 9w1, a 9w8, 7w6, and so on. For more information on the enneagram wings, click HERE.

Enneagram 3’s. I have to be careful with this one. If I get anything wrong here, the threes will NOT hesitate to call me out. Threes are amazing people (all types are) but the threes are especially astounding. They want to succeed in everything that they do. They believe that people see them only for what they accomplish and not necessarily who they really are. Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them.